Is there something in your life that feels stuck or stagnant, or perhaps an area that you want to shift but nothing is moving? Attachment may be the culprit. It can be difficult to see our attachments because they hide in habitual thoughts, latching onto desires and fears like a ninja. Attachments inhibit or stop the flow of energy through us, preventing the changes we’d like to see. How do you know if your stumbling block is attachment?
The things we most often attach meaning and significance to are what we fear and what we desire. The attachment is actually to the thoughts about these things, not the things themselves. The mind creates concepts that appear very real but are no more than thoughts. Then it identifies with them, makes them personal, and becomes attached to them. For example, for a time I was very attached to the child support payments my ex was supposed to send. Every month it was a major hassle to get even a portion of it. Receiving the child support was tied up with opinions of my ex, memories, concepts of responsibility, and so on. The issue was heavily charged with emotion and very stressful.
One day I saw the attachment and made a conscious choice to let it go. The next month the child support payment arrived on time, in full, without asking for it, and has continued with ease ever since. Nothing changed in my ex’s life. The only change was that I let go of my attachment to the child support and the entire situation of getting it each month. Granted, it took a lot of trust to do that, and that’s a big part of the whole attachment hang-up. We have to trust.
If you can’t let go of a big thing, try it with little things first. The more you see that releasing your attachment to something frees up the energy and allows a shift to take place the more trust you’ll have in the process. You’ll also free yourself of a lot of stress. It takes a lot more energy to hold something in place than it does to let it go. The nature of energy is movement. When we cling to something with fears, worries, or even intense desire, we inhibit the flow of energy.
Here’s the kicker: you can have anything you’re willing to let go of, and nothing that you cling to. If you really want something to happen or change or come into your life your strong emotions and mental attachment will prevent it. It’s okay to have desires. That’s how we create. The problem arises when we make them so significant that we can’t be happy without them. Decide to release your attachments and you’ll be amazed at how quickly and easily things begin to move.